First off, the definition I used for articulation is standard for all music, not just harmonica, and follows the general sense of separating things into distinct and separate entities (articles). The definition you were using is really just a description of tone in general.
For a useful diagnosis, the problems you describe would be better heard than verbalized. But let me attempt some suggestions.
Notes choking in the low range can be the result of blowing too hard (with a stronger force than when you're inhaling), or playing with tension inside the mouth - certain tense tongue and soft palate positions can change the resonant frequency so radically that the note refuses to speak. Curling your tongue up could have the effect of relieving this tension and allowing the note to sound.
Reading your post, I suspect that much your problem may simply be in the way you're shaping your mouth cavity, as this is paramount in shaping the tone, and can affect the attack - the willingness of the reed to speak. Try relaxing your entire mouth, tongue, throat, soft palate and jaw. Concentrate on each one in turn. Then try playing some long blow and draw notes, softly, concentrating on your tone.
The problem of getting more than one note is a matter of embouchure. Could it be that you're unconsciously moving your lips when you start to blow, in such a way as to disturb your embouchure and widen the pucker, thereby admitting additional holes? Check yourself and see what you discover.
The observation about whistling the note pitches when you're "shadow playing" is interesting. Are you just forming the notes with your mouth because you know they're the right ones, or does this mirror your mouth adjusting to the resonant frequencies of the notes on the harmonica by way of getting a good tone?
This is hard to verify by self-observation, because of the difficulty of preventing subconscious adjustment as one moves from one medium to the other. This would be a case for ultrasound A/B comparison - making an ultrasound movie of a player as he first played, then whistled a tune, and comparing mouth cavity shaping for each.
When I tried it myself, I would find a note on the harmonica (let's say C in Hole 4), whistle it, then play the note. The tone was good. Then I would whistle a lower note, like G, hold that position, and go back to playing C on the chromatic. Then note would be bent down slightly, and the tone weaker. If I then whistled G, held that position and played G, it would sound good. (By the way, I got the same result on the diatonic, although the pitch didn't go down as much).
I did notice that when I played the C in Hole 4 with the whistle C position, it was less bright, but much rounder than when using a relaxed tongue position.
When I tried playing C in hole 4 with the whistle position for E above it, it didn't damage the pitch or tone. However, it brought out some of the high harmonics more strongly. Interesting.
One more thing. You remarked
>I mentioned using the tongue, but not so much for blocking as >for finding the right hole faster than my lips normally can.
Your lips shouldn't be doing this kind of work. The notes should come to them, by way of your hands sliding the instrument from side to side, like an express train gliding into the station. The best your lips can do is scrunch themselves up and inch along like worms, breaking wind as they go. Your embouchure should be a floating point, a passive cushioned seal, with everything moving past it. (Unless you're doing multiple embouchures, but that's another story.)
There are players - notably Norton Buffalo - who use the tunnel-tongue embouchure to move rapidly from note to note wothout moving the lips or the harp.